| Nominate a JAM in your life for the South End Award, for behaving like the south end of a northbound horse! Spotting them is easy . . . you hate them. |
- Their words, deeds, or actions often vilify, defame, slander, abuse, or malign.
- They use sarcasm to ridicule, damage, demean, disparage, dismiss, diminish, or humiliate.
- Their words are arrogant, causing needless but intentional pain and suffering.
- Their words clearly express frustration, anger, and irritation.
- Their words, deeds, or actions are demanding and bullying.
- Their words are mostly just plain mean.
- Their words intentionally cut and insult.
- Their words are corrosive and disrespectful.
- Their words are tone deaf and disparaging.
- They speak and behave without empathy.
- Their words mindlessly and intentionally shame and injure.
- Their words, deeds, or actions intentionally injure and hurt.
- Their words spread phony accusations and suspicion.
- Their words exhibit overbearing and overzealousness.
- Their purpose is negative, punitive, defensive, harmful, and restricts others.
- Their words exceed the boundaries of decency, civility, and integrity.
- All Jackasses lie about everything, even when they say they are being truthful.
- All Jackass pathways lead to trouble, prolong problems, corrupt mitigation, defeat reconciliation, and confound resolution, it’s what they want.
If your boss has even one of these attributes, get out of there now!!
JAMs never change; they always promise that they will. It’s a lie. Just wait and see. (see #17). JAMs have been lying so frequently and for so long that they can’t remember what the truth is or was, but all victims do.
The true test of civility and decency is daily visible commitments to verbal and written communications that are predominantly positive, declarative, behaviors that are simple, sensitive, sensible, constructive, positive, helpful, empathetic, and benefit the recipient more than the sender.
True empathy means positive deeds that speak louder and more constructively than words.
